Notice how children play. They give their best in what they do. To them playing is their very duty. All out: 100%. Is it not we all became children at least once in our life? We have given our 100% and experienced how it feels to give our best shot.
We as well age. We stop at some point being children and start to grow up as mature and responsible individuals. Notice, on the other hand, how adults play. Some give the best in what they do as they expect the best from their efforts. What if despite giving their best they are just given with less of what they expected? Disappointments. Others give a considerable effort in what they do but they expect nonetheless – expecting more from what they have offered. What if their expectation falls short? Regrets.
Living life with disappointments and regrets is unfair. It is dragging and shall lead to despair and skepticism. Notice how children resolve problems or even challenges or even disagreements while playing. One universal observation we get is that the play under normal conditions has to continue. Like how we should live our lives, we have to continue even if it is filled with regrets and disappointments or if we encounter challenges or disagreements. Yes, kids could fall out of the play (game) to cry, to summon their parents, to take a break but they will come back as soon as possible. They will be happy again: laugh and enjoy, and they will trust again: play once more according to whatever rules or instruction. They will celebrate with others again – completely again.
Living life filled with disappointments and regrets is not petty. It is serious and comprehensive. The past continues to present itself in both the present and future as a reality that can never be avoided. And unless we let go of the past and try to address the present and set the future directions of our life anew, only then could we live again – breathe again and be happy just like how we used to be happy prior the regrets and disappointments which settled in our hearts and memory.
The invitation is to go back and to play again with other children. The invitation is outstanding and that is to give our best shot, our 100% and to be hardcore. Let others be amazed as to how you did it. Let them embrace you for you are still the same person whom they laughed and cried with. The only difference need not be made obvious. Let the difference stir in silence, in your interior life, making each turn, each participation and each interaction in the game gravitated with meaning and purpose that extends impressions and perceptions. Let yourself embrace them as if your equals. Let them learn from your mastery while you let yourself learn from theirs.
But the first order is to let go of the past. Such imperative can never be done in the past. Only in the present, in the now could we accomplish this. Maybe it is a disservice to indicate or suggest that this is a one-time-big-time thing. No. The imperative of letting go of the past consumes our present – the every now which stretch to a dignified span of the present time. It should not drag to another period where we do not proceed or we cease or pause from living or simply being in our very mind. The imperative must be engaging, this is the way to be. For our action today must stretch and have impact on the future – to when we can claim completely that we are happy and ready again. The imperative of letting go sets our vision and the only tool to set it is the every now which God would eagerly award for us to start all over again.
Just promise to be back. You can use everything under your disposal to get back. You can aspire for help and express outwardly the need to be helped. Cry out loud. At your own phase, (short enough) come back. No need for grandiosity; just be back with your values fortified and self-respect fully intact. Others for sure will notice. Yes, because you are active again but more than that, the footsteps you leave behind are deeply and heavily grounded, imprinted so well – implying each step was hard. Each step because of immense meaning inevitably leaves deep marks, of impressions on the ground. Each step shall serve as pocket gardens for blossoming flowers and fruit bearing trees.